The phone is ringing … as I run to attend it, I realise the living room is a mess with toys lying all over.
As I start speaking, the call from the potty comes “Mama! I’m done!”
The pressure cooker then whistles and wakes up the sleeping baby.
While this is my average day, I am not complaining. Seriously. Alhamdulillah for all these blessings — kids, provision, shelter and so much more. But I know that I, and all stay-at-home mummies like me, feel stressed out at times. So, let’s tackle it together.
People often tend to view “Homemaking” as a list of chores like cleaning, washing and cooking of course.
This concept needs to be rebuilt.
Homemaking is all about making a HOME.
All these chores are physical in nature, but we need to first touch the emotional side of it.
Bringing up bright and pious children into the world, providing and fostering all needs of your husband and still maintaining a peaceful and happy home … all this is indeed a big deal.
So, I am presenting a few ideas which might help you and me run a household smoothly.
1.Realise everything is from Allah (Ta’ala) and everything happens according to Allah’s plan. Accepting this should definitely take a lot of pressure away at once.
2.Make lots of dua’ and ask Allah (Ta’ala) to make your affairs easy for you.
3.You are constantly setting goals in your mind — what is the work that needs to be completed today? What should I cook? But if it doesn’t go as per your plan, take it easy! Nothing will happen if you mop the floor the next day or order from a restaurant for a change. Everyone knows kids are unpredictable.
4.Re-energise your imaan listening to a good lecture while mopping the floor or cutting veggies. If you are a nursing mother, utilise the time to read some beneficial material.
5.Find out easy recipes of your family’s favourite dishes, it save loads of time.
6.Treating children as creations of Allah will help us be more patient (a reminder to myself first).
7.Cut down anything and everything that causes Allah’s displeasure and is a complete waste of time. Time is extremely precious.
8.Stress comes when you are overdoing it. Take things easy. Cleanliness is half of faith but that doesn’t mean you do cleaning all day long. Imagine a clean house with frustrated kids and a tired wife when the master of the house arrives!
9.Don’t feel distressed thinking you are moving away from the path of Allah (Ta’ala) due to lack of time. Try and make every act of yours an ibadah. This is what you need to do: have the right intentions with proper action and lots of dua. There, you are done
10.Take care of yourself first so that you are able to take care of others.
Happiness comes from within. If we cannot be happy within our own homes and with our own families, chances are very few of us will be happy elsewhere.
May Allah (Ta’ala) make it easy for every Muslimah Mama. Ameen