12 tips on childrearing

Ibrahim Bowers “Don’t touch those!” the father commands as his child plays with the dishes on a shelf at his host’s house. A few seconds later, the father looks up from his conversation with his host, and his child is still playing with the dishes. “I told you not to touch those!” the child’s father repeats. A few seconds later, the father looks up and sees his child still playing with the dishes. The father says nothing and continues his conversation with the host. It happens all the time. Children are given orders, and when they don’t obey, the parent simply goes back to his conversation and forgets. What should

De-vicing your smart phone…

The twentieth century ushered in technological advances never previously seen. From the numerous new and technologically advanced devices that have been produced, perhaps nothing has captivated and addicted people to it to the extent that the “smart phone” has possessed its users. The “smart phone” is a combination of every media related device. One is now able to carry, in the recesses of his pocket, a device which serves as a phone, internet browser, camera, multimedia player, radio, television and fully functional computer. Unfortunately, the day all these diverse devices were rolled into one super-device – the smart phone – was the day all the negative effects of these technologies were

Beauty where it Belongs

  There is a well known principle in life which states, “There is a time and place for everything”. When correct time and place are not taken into consideration, an experience that would have otherwise been extremely enjoyable becomes disappointing and a pain to endure. To understand this in perspective, take the example of a platter of steaming hot, delicious food. The aroma of this gastronomic delight wafts through the air and it’s so tantalizing that people involuntary begin to lick their lips. As appetizing as the platter may be, however, if it is placed in the cubicle of a public toilet, people will refuse to even give it a

Tit for Tat – Are you Guilty?

‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma) narrates that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “The one who truly joins family ties is not the one who deals with people in the same manner that they deal with him. Rather, the one who truly joins family ties is the one who joins ties when they have been severed.” (Saheeh Bukhaari #5991) To be good to those family members who treat us well is easy, while showing good character to those family members who ill-treat us is difficult. However, a major occasion for joining family ties is when there is a need to join the ties on account of the ties being severed. Under

It’s our offspring at stake!!!

Upbringing our children in current times is truly challenging. If nothing is done soon, one cannot imagine how worse it could get. There’s nothing more sad than “losing” your child. Tips by Khalifah ‘Umar ibn’Abdil ‘Aziz I feel that Khalifah ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdil ‘Aziz’s (rahimahullah) advice below is very apt and pertinent. :وكتب عمر بن عبد العزيز إلى مؤدب ولده خذهم بالجفاء فهو أمنع لاقدامهم ، وترك الصبحة فان عادتها تكسب الغفلة، وقلة الضحك فان كثرته تميت القلب ، وليكن أول ما يعتقدون من أدبك بغض الملاهي التي بدؤها من الشيطان ، وعاقبتها سخط الرحمن ، فانه بلغني عن الثقات من حملة العلم أن حضور المعازف واستماع الأغاني واللهج بهما ينبت النفاق