Co-wives Speak Out

The following interview was taken with two co-wives living in Australia. The first wife, Khadijah (not her real name), has three children and the second wife, Amina (not her real name), was single with six children when she married into this situation. Khadijah and Amina knew each other for a long time before the second marriage. “I have always admired her,” said Khadijah. Khadijah’s family roots are in South Africa, but she said, “Culturally speaking, I’m Australian.” The husband is Algerian, and Amina is a revert to Islam and an Australian. Khadijah and Amina agree that there are a number of polygynous marriages that are not successful. However, both wives

Polygany, A Test and Blessing from Allah

With the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy “Who is he that will lend to Allah a goodly loan so that He may multiply it to him many times? And it is Allah that decreases or increases (your provisions), and unto Him you shall return”. (Al-Baqarah, 2:245) Narrated Abu Musa (radhi-allaahu ‘anhu): The Prophet (sallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “A faithful believer to a faithful believer is like the bricks of a wall, enforcing each other.” While saying that the Prophet (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) clasped his hands, by interlacing his fingers.  (Bukhaari vol. 1, hadith # 468) The first advice that I was given thirteen

8 Ways to Find the Right Person to Marry

Marriage is never an easy thing. We think of it as this amazing romantic bliss that we will somehow attain one day. Sisters dream of marrying that amazing brother who has the character of the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him), the Eemaan of Aboo Bakr, the courage of Hamzah (may Allah be pleased with them), the wealth of ‘Abdur-Rahmaan bin ‘Awf not to mention the SWAG of 2PAC Shakur (OK maybe not the last one) but the fact still remains, everyone wants to marry that one truly amazing person and it is not much different for guys. We wish to bump into a Hoor al-‘Een that has lost

21 Points on Raising Children

1 – Raising children is complex, as they are in need of patience and management. Some children are in need of gentleness, kindness, not raising your voice at them; such children should be dealt with without stubbornness. Other children are in need of sternness, but this sternness should not exceed the limit. If it is exceeded, then the child will become stubborn and non-compliant towards his parents’ guidance. We ask Allah to provide us with good protection and care since there is an immense responsibility around the necks of the parents. Allah, the Exalted, said, “O you who possess Eemaan (faith), save yourselves and your families from the Fire.” [Surah

The Importance of Reading to your Child

By reading to our children we not only teach them that learning is fun, we also show them by our own example. Allaah, the All-Mighty says (what means), “…Allaah will raise those who have believed among you and those who were given knowledge, by degrees…” [Quran 58: 11] While it is true that the knowledge that is referred to in the above verse is regarding Islamic knowledge, there is no doubt that throughout Islamic history from the time of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) until present day there has been a common understanding that striving to learn and educate ourselves is a vital part of being a Muslim. We