Quick Tips on How to Deal with In-Laws

In-laws are the focus of blame and reproach when there are marital disputes. But there are ways to maintain a good relationship with them. Here are some tips: Remember your spouse’s parents have known them longer and loved them longer. Never make an issue about “me or them”. Let respective parties settle their own disputes. If your mother-in-law has a problem with her husband, let them deal with it. Don’t interfere Don’t tell your spouse how to improve their relationship with their parents. Expect some adjustment time for parents after marriage to adjust to this new relationship. Remember that mothers are usually skeptical about daughter-in-laws and fathers about son-in-laws. Give

The Signs, Reasons And Fruits Of The Fear Of Allah

The Signs of Fear Know! Dear Muslim brothers and sisters. We can find out whether we fear Allah or are oblivious of him through some simple tests. Here are some of them: The tongue informs us: if we talk evil, backbite and engage in frivolous gossip, it shows that there is very little concern. We should engage our tongues in the remembrance of Allah, in the recitation of the Quran and in circles of knowledge. In the heart we should expel hatred, enmity and jealousy and replace them with well-wishing and care for Muslims. We should be careful of what we put in our stomachs. Our eyes should not wander

The Six Realizations of Tawakkul

TAWAKKUL is an attitude.  I have found this to be a simple and true  way of defining what reliance on Allah and trusting Him means.  That is its nature.  We possess tawakkul only if it is actually consciously present in our hearts and minds at all times, like a second nature.  It is there whether we suffer major life setbacks or soar in an inexpressible moment of bliss and facility.  Tawakkul is no “now and again” mood.  That kind of emotional or spiritual spike is typical of all people. Tawakkul is special, the direct result of true eman in Allah, certainty in the Hereafter, and continuous remembrance of both.  This

The Bad Consequences of the Tongue

The Tongue Expresses what is in the Heart The most important part of the body is the heart, as has been mentioned by our noble Prophet Muhammed  (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam), “Indeed there is a piece of flesh in your body that, if it is sound, then the whole body will be sound, and if it is corrupt then the whole body will be corrupt. Indeed it is the heart.” (Sahih al-Bukhari [1/49] & Sahih al-Muslim [1599]) The heart is thus the port where all actions stem, whether good or evil. If the heart is good then the actions will be sound and if the heart is corrupt then the actions will

Anger Management: Practical Tips To Control Your Temper

Anger is a misunderstood emotion; it is what you do with it that matters. It can be destructive like a storm, but can act as motivation for change. It tells us when our boundaries are being crossed and can deter adversaries. The Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (sall Allāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) directly offers techniques that can be used to help when a person is angry. The tips below are a compilation of contemporary therapeutic techniques that are also directly from the Sunnah. 1) Catch it early The Prophet (sall Allāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “If a man gets angry and says, ‘I seek refuge with Allāh,’ his anger will go away.”[1] In